06-10-2009, 08:52 AM
I know the type. I believe the MO is that they MUST have entertainment lined up for every hour of every day, as their worst fear is for something to fall through that leaves them bored and alone at 7pm on a Tuesday. So they'll overlap entertainment plans so that if anything falls through, it's falling through for someone else, not them.
So basically I think "b" is the common one, with "d" twisting the knife. They overbook and then given a choice between a party with friends or you, they'll go to the party. I think it's just a typical phase where "boyfriend" takes a back seat to "parties with friends" (or perhaps more specifically, "things which are not immediate, superficial fun" takes a backseat to "things which are"). All the girls I know who are like this are either single or rotate through boyfriends because when it comes right down to it, they aren't as interested in a dating commitment as they are in nights out with the girls, flirting, etc. You can keep on keepin' on in the hopes she'll drop out of that phase but honestly, it can go on for years. Some girls will get tired of the party scene after a few months, others never seem to tire of it. (In my experience it's somewhat seasonal too. They'll be like this for the summer when it's nice out at night then go back to normal in the winter.)
You just need to find someone who's more interested in dating than partying. Either that or you need to become Mr. Happy FunTime Party Dude so that you're always the most exciting thing on their clingy, ADD inspired list.
But I think Klingon Commander Kruge said it best: "GET OUT!! GET OUT OF THERE!! GET OUT!!"
So basically I think "b" is the common one, with "d" twisting the knife. They overbook and then given a choice between a party with friends or you, they'll go to the party. I think it's just a typical phase where "boyfriend" takes a back seat to "parties with friends" (or perhaps more specifically, "things which are not immediate, superficial fun" takes a backseat to "things which are"). All the girls I know who are like this are either single or rotate through boyfriends because when it comes right down to it, they aren't as interested in a dating commitment as they are in nights out with the girls, flirting, etc. You can keep on keepin' on in the hopes she'll drop out of that phase but honestly, it can go on for years. Some girls will get tired of the party scene after a few months, others never seem to tire of it. (In my experience it's somewhat seasonal too. They'll be like this for the summer when it's nice out at night then go back to normal in the winter.)
You just need to find someone who's more interested in dating than partying. Either that or you need to become Mr. Happy FunTime Party Dude so that you're always the most exciting thing on their clingy, ADD inspired list.
But I think Klingon Commander Kruge said it best: "GET OUT!! GET OUT OF THERE!! GET OUT!!"